11 mental health tips for working mothers
When it comes to balancing career and motherhood, my main focus is how I can try to do it all while still being mentally healthy. Mental health is the foundation of everything in our lives. We need to feel emotionally healthy for ourselves, our relationships, our careers, our clients and, most importantly, our children.
After the birth of my beautiful daughter, a whole new and lonely struggle opened that few people talk about: when you work outside the home and become a mom, balancing your two worlds seems almost impossible. . How do we give 100% of ourselves to each role? How do you continue to build your career, be a good and present mother, and still have time for yourself and to enjoy life?
Throughout my career, I’ve been so amazed at how open-minded women can be when it comes to sharing fashion advice, intimate beauty secrets, and social successes, but we remain closed when we discuss how we really feel. And while mental health is discussed much more openly now, it may not yet be a common topic over coffee with friends – but it should be.
Mental health and postpartum depression go hand in hand, but new mothers still don’t know how to take care of their mental health after birth. There is little emphasis on the well-being of the mother compared to the well-being of our babies. This is where your village comes in.
They say it takes a village to raise a child. It wasn’t until I became a mother myself that I fully understood what that meant. And I’ll take it a step further: I believe this village of amazing humans by your side is necessary to navigate all of life’s different journeys, not just motherhood.
I consider myself very lucky to have met so many strong, kind and successful women (mothers and non-mothers) so far. We keep our balance and we are there for each other. We check in to make sure we are taking care of our physical and mental health. We keep ourselves strong.
From my village to yours, I share some useful tips that I use and learned from others, in the hope that it will help even just one strong mom trying to balance everything out. It might encourage her to do the same for someone else.
You need your “time for me”. It sounds cliché, but it is necessary and sometimes life saving. Have a village that is ready to give you “time for me”. A hired helper is great, but most of the time it’s really for when you are working, which is not the time for you alone. Have a friend or two or three make some time to watch your baby while you get your nails done, go to the gym, go for a walk, or just grab a cup of coffee and breathe. Sometimes just 30 minutes of real “me” time can feel like a whole day at the spa.
An important reminder
Remember, you don’t have to be everywhere and do it all. Bless the moms who can, but some of us just don’t have the time. You can have a Post-It note if needed to remind you that you are doing your best and that doesn’t make you a perfect mom or not to your child just because you don’t post new creative photos to your Instagram every. days.
Speaking of which, tune your social networks. Personally, I think it may benefit you to have the support and see other women embrace the poise of a working mom, but if you think it will allow you to compare yourself to other moms who you think are doing “more” than you, it’s okay to take a break from social media or delete it all together.
Moments of silence
Take at least 1 minute of calm in the morning when you wake up and also before sleeping. Just close your eyes and smile – I promise that helps.
Add little reminders to your phone (schedule them to go off at least twice a day) to remind you that you have this and / or that you are doing great. It feels good to remind yourself that you are doing the best you can.
Take a 5 minute recording with a friend every day. It takes 5 minutes or less to say “Hi, how are you? I just wanted to wish you a productive day, I love you!” It makes you feel good and this friend feels even better.
Yes, even if you live in your favorite yoga pants, add a brightly colored t-shirt, jacket or lipstick. Forties missed the fun of getting dressed every day, but it’s not necessary. Put yourself in those jeans, blow your hair, do something that makes you feel good about yourself and that looks at you in the mirror. That makes a lot of differences.
Look at your relationships
Surround yourself with non-judgmental people: It’s okay to take a break from your friends or family as you try to navigate this new chapter. Sometimes the people closest to us make us the most anxious. There is nothing wrong with taking a break from people.
“Comparison is the thief of joy”
Don’t compare yourself to other women unless it’s to inspire. Everyone has their own path and everyone has certain difficulties that you are not aware of.
Be honest. Share your challenges / experiences with others to inspire them. That alone will make you feel like you can help someone and remind them that they are not alone.
Try to meditate for 10 minutes a day. Meditation helps control our emotions and our body to relax, but just warning: this process can lead to improved physical and emotional well-being. 😉
You don’t have to incorporate all of this into your daily life – even just one makes a major difference. The goal is to do something big or small for yourself and your well-being at least once a day.
Congratulations on this next chapter of your life, Mom – you are already doing great!
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