8 IBS tips for your wedding day
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You won’t find it in standard wedding planners:
- Determine how to avoid a flare up on one of the most important days of your life.
But if you have irritable bowel syndrome (IBS), then you know it’s a major item on your to-do list.
Unfortunately, brides are more likely to face IBS symptoms because women are more likely to have IBS. Twice as likely as men, in fact, by the Cleveland clinic. The exact reason is unknown, says Asma Khapra, MD, a Virginia-based gastroenterologist who focuses on women’s digestive health and who has IBS herself. What is clear, she adds, is that “women suffer more from IBS with hormonal fluctuations. For example, during menstrual cycles, IBS symptoms such as stomach pain and diarrhea tend to worsen, when estrogen and progesterone drop to low levels.
Regardless of. You know that you have IBS; so there is nothing else to do but plan it. “I definitely should have prepared for [IBS on] on my wedding day and would advise others to do the same,” says Emily R., 28, who married in 2020. “I found myself so puffy in a two-piece wedding dress and I had to unpack her during the reception – not the most flattering look or moment.
Lauren Schneider, 29, who got married in 2019, literally felt Emily’s pain. “My wedding day was a huge source of anxiety for me. I planned everything, I did decorations, I had to set up and I wanted everything to be perfect,” she says. Anyone with IBS knows that anxiety at this level is a recipe for disaster.”
Luckily for you, Emily, Lauren and other brides with IBS have survived enough wedding incidents to tell you how to prepare for your wedding day so your bowels are the last thing on your mind.
Involve your planner
“If you’re working with a wedding planner and you feel comfortable doing so, tell them about your IBS. That way you can have a game plan in place if you experience symptoms on the day of your wedding. An idea: ask him to find a private bathroom on site where you can feel relaxed in case of a problem.—Stéphanie Thomas, 28, married in 2019
Choose your wedding dress wisely
“I chose something flowy and light with minimal skirt to pull up in case I had to run to the bathroom. The last thing I wanted was to struggle in a mermaid-style dress or a tight corset if I had to. Luckily, I didn’t have to compromise and buy a dress just for comfort; I was able to find one that I liked and felt the most beautiful in. It was a win for aesthetics and IBS, something very rare for me.-Lauren
Repeat your menu
“Choose things you know are easy to do. your stomach. You are the bride. If possible in advance, eat exactly the meal you will have on your wedding day and see how your body reacts. Throughout the big day, you may also want to have some herbal tea available, such as peppermint. Most of the time, just stick to your regular meal schedule, which will help you digest and know what to expect at certain times of the day. —Stephanie
Talk to your doctor about additional prevention
“If I had prepared, I would have made sure to eliminate certain trigger foods the night of the night to save myself the pain. I would also have taken preventative measures in the weeks leading up to my big day, like taking stool softeners. and magnesium, so that I wouldn’t feel so bloated and constipated on a day when I intended to feel fully beautiful and in my body.” -Emilie
Pick an IBS Buddy
“Between my normal gut issues and typical pre-wedding jitters, I was terrified of having a ~situation~ on my wedding day. To get ready, one of my bridesmaids was on standby. Our plan was simple: I said a code word (I think oranges?), we ran (literally, RUN) in my trapeze dress to the nearest bathroom, and… you can imagine the rest. I miraculously had no problem once I put my dress on, but I’ll always be grateful to my bridesmaid, who took care of all my shit (literally) on my wedding day. Rachel, 31, married in 2022
Or keep a loved one who gets it close to you
“One thing that has really helped me is having my mum by my side all day. She knows exactly how to help me reduce anxiety by just being there (she has a very calming energy). She also knows how to react to my panic and flare-ups. She knows exactly when to help me and when to give me space. She helped make sure the decorations were put up and helped keep people out of the way. my personal space when I needed a few minutes to collect myself. I don’t think I could have gone through the day without her. -Lauren
Improve your self-care routine
“Making time to relax and schedule some sort of self-care routine (like a manicure/pedi or massage) the week before the big day can help you relax, disconnect and be more present. Personally , I love Reiki as a natural modality to reduce stress and anxiety. A few weeks before the wedding weekend, consider trying a few Reiki sessions.” —Jenna Volpe, 34, married in 2022
Save your cake for the next day
“In the days leading up to my wedding, I made sure to eat only my safe foods. Even when we had our rehearsal lunch, I stuck to what I knew, avoided alcohol and j I always had my meds handy. I also saved the cake for the next day and ate snacks when I got back to the hotel room at the end of the night. -Lauren