Pandemic Dating: How Do You Even Start Dating Right Now?
Hi! I’m Zahra, editor-in-chief of SELF magazine and host of our wellness tips podcast, Recording. In this week’s episode, we talk about something close to my heart as a former love and relationship writer: How are you going to date yourself at this precise point in the pandemic?
Our listener question this week comes from Loree, who says this period of massive isolation only underscored how much she’d like to take her encounters beyond just digital. She also feels that returning to the in-person meeting is finally a little safer thanks to the deployment of the COVID-19 vaccine. But she’s also feeling pretty anxious about the new level of confidence involved in dating these days. Loree describes herself as very cautious when it comes to COVID-19 safety precautions. Beyond wondering how to navigate dating in general right now, she is also wondering how to believe potential mates are paying enough attention to her comfort level.
To give Loree some advice, I first chatted with Patia Braithwaite, SELF’s Health Editor-in-Chief. Patia covers a wide range of dating topics, as well as very important personal growth topics such as how to set boundaries and learn to trust yourself. Patia also calls herself a ‘professional bachelor at this point’ and has some great advice from that point of view (including a dating tip that I thought was particularly great, but you’ll have to listen to find out what it is!).
Then I chat with Traci Medeiros-Bagan, licensed marriage and family therapist in California. Traci strives to help clients feel “the whole thing” when it comes to everything, but especially their relationships. Traci offers Loree some stellar advice to explore the roots of her anxieties so that she can push herself to come back without pushing. too much a lot. Traci also explains how to deal with the fear of rejection which can be extremely real and lingering when communicating your limits to someone you might truly love.
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Patia Braithwaite is a writer and editor who joined SELF in May 2019. She was previously the Wellness Editor at Refinery29, and her freelance work has appeared in the Washington Post and VICE. She lives in Brooklyn. You can read Patia’s work at SELF here, and follow her on Twitter @ PdotBRaithw8.
Traci Medeiros-Bagan is a licensed marriage and family therapist in California. They work with adults who identify as QTPOC, non-monogamous, perverted, and / or those in the adult entertainment industry, while also supporting heterosexual and cis-identified clients struggling with shame, relationships alternatives and supporting those close to QTPOC. .
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